Thoughtful Thursday

When I was sixteen I was beyond excited to drive. It was the first independence I’ve ever tasted, and I loved every moment of it. And that drive (pun intended) hasn’t gone away. I love road trips, running errands, traveling to visit family… I even enjoy my 50 minute commute to work every day.

And I never once had an accident in ten years. Well, until yesterday.

At 7:30am I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. I had a loud fire truck coming from the right, traffic coming from the left, and an 18 wheeler speeding from the back.

I am fine and my car is still drivable – though it has a very ugly dent in the back. Life did not flash before my eyes, the airbags didn’t go off, and I’m not sore or hurting one bit. And, besides the work that needs to be done on my car, it was actually a pleasant experience.

Let me explain. 

A few weeks ago I witnessed a car accident between an older woman and a 30-something year old man. The way these two individuals treated each other was horrifying. One blaming the other for the cause, cursing, making a scene in public… People, where’s the decency? These two were literally about to rip each other’s head right off over a minor fender bender. It made me wonder, “Where is the sympathy?” 

My situation was not ideal: I was late for work, the firemen had to call out of the emergency they were heading to, and we caused more traffic because of the lane we took up. However, the people I dealt with were kind-hearted. The truck driver who hit me apologized profusely, and the professionals that helped us made sure we were both alright and didn’t have any further questions regarding the situation. They were calm, collected, and had genuine concern about our safety. 

“The planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of all kinds.” – Dalai Lama 

When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that has changed them. So be careful with your words, once they are said they can only be forgiven, not forgotten.

Thoughtful Thursday

On average, I attend about two to three networking events a month. Most are beneficial; meeting new people, chatting about different lines of work, and consuming some good food and drink is always a plus.

However, there are events that had me checking my watch and thinking up excuses to leave early. Because, one of my biggest pet peeves is being sold to. Networking is not selling!

No one comes to a networking event to buy, so you shouldn’t go to sell.

I cannot tell you how many people introduce themselves, catch my name briefly, then go into their pitch: “Hi, I’m Steve from Blah Blah Company. I want to tell you how I can save you money. How much do you spend on groceries each month?”

Well, here’s the thing Steve: I actually spend way too much on groceries every month. I could actually use your services to keep those bills low. But, we just met. Let’s date before we get married (or at least get my name right).

Think of networking like a speed dating service. Walk around, chat with a few folks, and see who you could see yourself developing a relationship with. Imagine you are at a speed dating event, and someone comes up to you and starts rattling off why their so great, then asks you to marry them. What would you say? NO. You just met, of course you’re not going to commit yourself to this person.

Same thing with networking.

Use this opportunity to meet new people. Establish the relationship, exchange contact information, and take it from there. Follow up meeting one-on-one. It’s about getting to know each other, like each other, and ultimately trust each other. They may feel comfortable enough to recommend you to people who need your product or service.

Tuesday Truths

  • I keep some people’s phone numbers in my phone just so I know when to not pick up
  • I still fantasize about marrying any member of NSYNC
  • If I had a British or Irish accent I’d never shut up
  • When I eat an entire jar of peanut butter in one sitting, I go buy a whole new one so my fiancé doesn’t think I’m a fatty
  • After eating a sandwich, I could go for another sandwich
  • I spend money on Candy Crush Saga